Failure is a Step in a Process

On March 7, 2018, I decided to post everyday in that month, after having missed out on six days already. I could have thought I am setting myself up for failure right then, and a neuron in my brain probably did fire in that direction.

Almost a month later, here I am, having failed to complete the challenge I set for myself. I wrote 22 posts instead of 31, but I gave myself a discount of 6 posts today to account for the days I missed before I started. That leaves me with 25 posts that should have been written, but I am three short. Sounds better already, right?

We do this all time. We look at damages and losses and try to reduce it, even if it just hypothetical. I am happy that I was able to complete most of the challenge, but here’s what I have learnt from the process:

  1. Failure is important when it comes to building strength and learning to adapt. It’s teaches you a lot about yourself, in terms of what you are good at and what you need to work on.
  2. Set goals that are a little difficult for you to achieve. If you know you can do something, there is no point setting a goal to highlight it and fool yourself into believing that struggled to achieve. If you can climb three flights of stairs, aim for five flights and see if that was actually as difficult as you thought it was; if it was easy, keep going to see how many more flights you can climb.
  3. Congratulate yourself for a few seconds along the way and limit it to a few seconds to ensure you don’t waste time rejoicing. You could be using that energy to complete other goals.
  4. Assess yourself whenever necessary. If you are emotional, skip assessment that day because you may praise yourself or beat yourself up more than required. Find a neutral state of mind and make a list of what you did right, what you could have done better and what you can’t do at all.
  5. Pause, but don’t stop once you reach your finish line. There are so many more goals waiting in line. Breaks are definitely important, so pause, reflect, assess and reboot.

I failed, but I am happy I tried. Writing the blog posts in response to a prompt that I didn’t choose for myself, and pushing my creativity and thoughts was refreshing, to say the least. There were words or prompts that I stared at, wondering how I would write about them, but I did. You have to stick to your gut sometimes and go with it.

Thank you for reading, Dreamers! Your feedback, love and support has kept me going and so many of you have joined me at my desk this month. It’s been great and I shall keep challenging myself time and again. Stay tuned!

 

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9 Comments Leave a comment

  1. I think, that is a great achievement. Publishing 22 blogposts in 31 days sounds unreal to me. It must have been so much work and time.
    I’m happy, if I manage to publish 4 posts per month. That’s kind of my goal each month…
    Nice post, I like the advices, some of them are like life lessons too, I think.

    Have a good day!

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  2. Brilliant Nans! I need to move out of the ‘gol’ (hole) in my life to find my real goal(s). Getting some clarity though of what I am trying to achieve!

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  3. This instantly reminded me of one of my favourite quotes.
    “I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” Michael Jordan
    I think you have achieved something worth celebrating which is the persistence to keep trying 😊

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